Criticism

[lia]

I recently decided to post before and after weight loss photos of myself on facebook and I've received a lot of criticism. Maybe I was stupid to do it and should have expected people to judge me, but I was really excited about my progress and wanted to share it. I didn't want to take it down because I don't want to make people think they got to me...but I feel bad when I see it now Should I leave it up or take it down? What would you do?

[Maggie]

That's awful Lia and I'm sorry you're going through that. I personally think it's great that you are proud of your progress and want to share it. That said, I wouldn't take down your picture. I would simply block the people who are being mean to you. You may even want to unfriend them. People who say mean things aren't your friends and you don't need them in your life.

[Kyra]

I also wouldn't take it down, but I would fix my facebook settings to make it so that only certain people can see the stuff I post. There's an option to make some people "acquaintances" These people can't see what you post on your wall unless you permit them. I've found that this is the best way to prevent people I don't want seeing certain things I've posted from gaining access to them. Up your privacy and security settings and that should help your problem.

On a side note. I personally think it's great that you're proud of your progress and you're sharing it. *Like* :D :D

[Nelly]

People only judge others for two reasons:

1 - They are insecure and itt makes them feel better about their own miserable lives
2 - They're just cruel and enjoy the suffering of others.

Neither one of these people are good friends. If you need to keep them on your facebook for some reason, then yeah, I would recommend doing what Kyra suggested and reducing what they can view on your wall by making them an "acquaintance".

Otherwise, I would unfriend them. You don't need people like that in your life.

[Beth]

Don't listen to the critics Lia. Just delete their comments and move on. If what they've said really bothers you, send them a private message and let them know how you feel. If they respond in any way other than a positive one, dump them off your facebook or at the very least block them from seeing all your posts. You really don't need these toxic people in your life, I don't care who they are!

[lia]

awww you're all so sweet and suppotive! I was feeling so down but you guys all said such great things.

For now, I've stopped posting the pictures because it makes me happier to at the moment but I think I will do it again when I'm ready. If people make mean comments again, I think I am just going to delete their responses. If they keep it up, I'll confront them about it before I resort to blocking them. I don't want to burn any bridges over a picture but at the same time I also don't want to be friends with someone who is just negative and cruel for the sake of being that way.

Thank you all again. This really made my day <3